Betrayal Doesn’t Have to End Your Relationship

Rebuild trust, repair connection, and create a new relational structure that actually works.
Intensive Couples Counseling in Boulder, Colorado offering Weekend & 30-Day Formats

People Not Problems office in Boulder, CO

Something sacred has been broken. You're probably oscillating between rage and numbness, hope and despair. That's exactly where you should be. But you don’t have months to spend on slow, weekly sessions. You need fast, focused, expert support that helps both partners understand why your current system isn’t working and how to rebuild something stronger and more sustainable that is better suited to the relationship you desire.

This is not traditional couples counseling. This is a relational rebuild designed for couples dealing with affairs, emotional betrayal, secrecy, disconnection, or patterns that keep breaking the relationship.

The Space Between Discovery and Decision

Right now, you're living in the unbearable middle. The affair has been discovered. The betrayal is on the table. And everyone—friends, family, therapists—has an opinion about what you should do.

Meanwhile, you're just trying to survive each day. One partner drowning in shame. The other suffocating in pain. Both wondering if there's a way forward that doesn't require pretending this never happened.

Weekly sessions feel like trying to solve a puzzle when the pieces keep changing between appointments

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Why Couples Choose an Intensive After Betrayal

When trust is broken or your relationship feels like it’s beyond repair, you don’t need to just “feel better” or “feel more”. You need a major change in order to move forward. Intensives offer the space and framework to best support that kind of transformational change.

David’s Intensives offer:

  • 18 hours of concentrated couples therapy in a single weekend

  • Or a structured 30-day immersion (we will build your plan together, for what works best for your schedule and needs)

  • A private, clinician-guided space to understand betrayal and rebuild trust

  • Experiential work that rewires the relational system, not just communication habits

  • Tailored support that adapts to your relationship’s specific dynamics

  • A clear path forward — even when you’re unsure if repair is possible

Rebuild clarity. Rebuild trust. Rebuild the relationship you desire.

David Lieberman is a family and couples therapist based in Boulder, Colorado.  He offers 75-minute sessions and 30-day Intensives involving second-order change for couples dealing with betrayal, sexual intimacy issues, conflict, kink, Poly.
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A Different Approach to Affair Recovery & Betrayal Repair

I know the betrayed partner's intrusive thoughts that won't stop. I know the betraying partner's shame that feels unsurvivable. I've sat with couples as they've done the excruciating work of truth-telling and witnessed the surprising moments when hope breaks through.

After years as a clinician and countless hours with couples in crisis, I've learned this: Betrayal isn't the end of your story. It's a brutal chapter that can lead to a more authentic relationship—if you're willing to do the deep work, not just the surface repairs.

Most couples counseling focuses on talking more, communicating “better,” or processing emotions endlessly. But betrayal isn’t just a communication problem, it’s a system problem.

During our sessions, you will:

  • Understand why the relational system broke

  • Learn how to rebuild a structure where honesty and connection can thrive

  • Create a dynamic where neither partner is the emotional manager or emotional avoider

  • Build a foundation for safety, leadership, followership, and shared responsibility

  • Learn relational tools that work at home, in conflict, and under stress

David works with:

  • Couples healing from infidelity

  • Partners experiencing betrayal trauma or secrecy

  • Couples stuck in cycles of blame, shutdown, or emotional distance

  • High-functioning professionals who want efficient, results-driven support

  • Couples exploring whether repair or redefinition is possible

Transformational change over traditional marriage counseling is:

  • Deep, focused work in extended sessions over weekly talk therapy

  • Guided, thoughtful human co-exploration over coaching

  • Sustainable, lasting change over a quick fix

  • Rewriting the system over blame-oriented “who’s wrong” treatment

  • A tailored program over a templated program

  • Surface-level communication training

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after an intensive, you’ll walk away with:

  • A clear understanding of why the betrayal occurred

  • A realistic path toward repair, reconnection, or resolution

  • Tools to rebuild emotional presence without losing strength

  • A functioning relational system where both partners can lead, follow, and evolve

  • A renewed sense of partnership — not resentment, avoidance, or imbalance

  • A way forward that feels grounded, honest, and possible

See if an intensive is right for you
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Take the First Step Towards Repair

Before beginning any intensive work, let’s discuss whether my approach aligns with your goals and discuss which format best serves your relationship. Let’s start the conversation today and explore a new path forward.