You Still Love Each Other.
So Why Does Everything Feel This Hard?
Something else has taken over your relationship. Let's name it, understand it, and show it the door.
You didn't marry this version of your relationship. Somewhere along the way, something moved in—a pattern, a story, a wound that keeps hijacking your best intentions. You've tried harder. You've tried space. You've read the books. And still, here you are: two good people stuck in the same exhausting loop.
Here's what most couples therapy gets wrong: it treats you like the problem to be fixed. But you're not broken. You've just been fighting the wrong enemy—each other—instead of the thing that's actually running the show.
This work is different. We slow down. We get curious. We figure out what's really driving the disconnection—and then we change it. Not with worksheets and communication scripts, but with the kind of shift that makes the old patterns feel foreign.
This isn't therapy that drags on for months. It's focused, intensive work for couples who are done circling and ready to move.
When Your Relationship Feels Stuck
David Lieberman, MA, LMFT
Couples visit me for counseling when they notice
✓ Conversations escalate quickly or go nowhere
✓ Emotional or physical intimacy feels distant or strained
✓ The same conflicts repeat despite best intentions
✓ One or both feel misunderstood, guarded, or exhausted
✓ Big questions about trust, desire, or the future feel hard to name
Couples therapy offers a space to explore how these patterns operate — not to decide who’s right or wrong, but to understand what’s happening between you.
How I Work With Couples
My work is grounded in Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and family systems approaches.
Rather than focusing only on behaviors or communication skills, we look at the relational system you’re part of — the rules, roles, and protective patterns that shape how you relate.
This isn’t about fixing one person. It’s about creating conditions where both partners can feel seen, heard, and more connected to themselves and each other.
Together, we work to:
Understand recurring relational patterns
Explore emotional and attachment dynamics
Create space for honest, safer conversations
Support changes that feel authentic and sustainable
What Couples Therapy Can Support
Couples I work with often bring questions or challenges around:
Ongoing conflict or emotional distance
Rebuilding trust after rupture or betrayal
Navigating transitions, stress, or life changes
Exploring intimacy, desire, or identity
Feeling “fine” on the surface but disconnected underneath
This work is collaborative and paced to your relationship — not prescriptive or agenda-driven.
Are You Struggling in Your Relationship?
Relationships can be incredibly rewarding, but they also come with challenges. For many couples, certain issues can feel overwhelming and difficult to navigate without support.
Common Challenges Couples Face:
✓ Broken Trust
✓ Communication Breakdowns
✓ Loss of Intimacy
✓ Unresolved Conflict
✓ Emotional Disconnection
These challenges are common, but they don’t have to define your relationship. With the right guidance, couples can rediscover trust, rebuild connection, and create a stronger, healthier partnership.
There’s Hope for Change.
I offer a variety of weekly and intensive style therapy sessions for couples:
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My work with couples is grounded in Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and family systems approaches.
Rather than focusing only on behaviors or communication skills, we look at the relational system you’re part of — the rules, roles, and protective patterns that shape how you relate.
This isn’t about fixing one person. It’s about creating conditions where both partners can feel seen, heard, and more connected to themselves and each other.
Together, we work to:
Understand recurring relational patterns
Explore emotional and attachment dynamics
Create space for honest, safer conversations
Support changes that feel authentic and sustainable
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Where change happens in days, not years. Transform your relationship through a 30-day couples therapy intensive designed for real, lasting change, not surface fixes or false promises. This work is for couples and families who already understand their patterns… and know that understanding alone isn’t changing them.
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Rebuild trust, repair connection, and create a new relational structure that actually works, even after betrayal. This is intensive couples therapy for relationships impacted by infidelity, secrecy, emotional betrayal, or profound disconnection offered in weekly or 30-day formats for couples who need focused, expert support now.
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Thoughtful, kink-affirming therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships navigating desire, power, intimacy, and connection, without shame or explanation required. If you’re looking for a therapist in Boulder who can meet you where you are, without pathologizing your sexuality or asking you to educate them, you’re in the right place.
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If you’re exploring opening your relationship, CNM, polyamory, and want a therapist who can hold complexity without judgment or pathology — you’re in the right place. I offer poly-affirming therapy in Boulder for couples, individuals, and polycules navigating relational possibilities.
Session Length: 75 minutes
Format: Ongoing couples therapy
Payment: Private pay
Insurance: Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement
I offer a free consultation so we can explore whether this format feels like a good fit — and whether couples therapy or an intensive approach would best serve your needs.
Session Format & Practical Details
Is Couples Therapy the Right Fit?
Weekly couples therapy is often a good fit if you’re looking for:
Gradual, steady change
Ongoing support during a complex period
Space to explore patterns without urgency or immersion
A therapist who can hold nuance without judgment
Some couples eventually choose to deepen the work through an intensive format; others find weekly sessions offer exactly the support they need.
We’ll figure that out together.