It’s no wonder that many clients who reach out to me for relationship therapy in Boulder are seeking quick relief. As humans, we often turn to therapy when we’re in pain, sensing that an important relationship is fracturing or that love and trust have been shattered. During our first complimentary video consult, I often hear questions like, “How quickly can I feel relief?” “Can you give me tools?” and “Will you be able to fix me/them/us?” I deeply empathize with these stories of human suffering and share the desire to provide immediate solutions to alleviate the hurt.

We could argue whether the relational construct of monogamy is black and white, and some couples might navigate whether texting former partners or having drinks with a co-worker is in integrity with their relationship’s values, but polyamory is certainly less binary. There are almost infinite ways to practice consensual non-monogamy, and this adds both beauty and complexity to the experience of poly and consensual non-monogamous humans.