When You're Ready for Second-Order Change
It's no wonder that couples reaching out often ask, "How quickly can I feel relief?" I deeply empathize with stories of human suffering and the desire for immediate solutions. While I have interventions that help ease acute relationship distress, real transformation takes concentrated focus—with yourselves and each other.
The question isn't how to "fix" your relationship back to some previous state, but how to transform the rules altogether. How do you move from worrying about your relationship's course to embracing the mystery of your connection? From symptom management to authentic change?
WHY INTENSIVES WORK
Creating Space for Second-Order Change
As the father of transformational change, Watzlawick, describes, second-order change needs to be introduced from outside the relationship system—similar to how those who ride bikes can introduce children to bike riding. Being outside your relationship dynamic, I can facilitate transformation by co-exploring the rules you've come to understand.
Momentum Through Immersion
Fifteen concentrated hours create space for breakthrough moments that couples and families can feel and build on. When you step away from daily distractions and immerse yourselves in the work, profound shifts become possible.
Experiential Transformation
Through reflective and experiential activities, we explore the deeper emotional experiences that fuel your patterns. This leads to transformational change in how you see and experience each other, not just modified behaviors.
INTENSIVES
Choose Your Transformation Journey
When You're Ready for Second-Order Change
Two Pathways
Weekend Intensive
Transform your relationship in a focused three-day experience. Complete immersion allows for the sustained attention that deep systemic change requires.
Month-Long Intensive
The same transformational work spread across four weeks, allowing for integration between sessions while maintaining concentrated focus on your relationship.
Complete Experience
Preparation Session (75 minutes)
We begin by exploring your unique relationship story, identifying the patterns you want to transform, and setting intentions for your intensive experience.
Core Intensive (15 hours including breaks)
Whether delivered over a weekend or across a month, this is where the deep work happens. Through experiential activities and meaning-making conversations, we create space for second-order change.
Integration Session (75 minutes)
Within 30-90 days, we consolidate your transformation and explore how to both celebrate and maintain the new relationship narrative you've co-authored with yourself and others.
Who This Serves
For Couples Ready for Real Change
You're successful professionals who understand the value of concentrated expertise. You've likely tried traditional therapy, read the relationship books, maybe attended workshops—but you're still caught in familiar patterns.
Perhaps you're navigating:
The complex work of rebuilding trust after infidelity
Emotional distance that's calcified over years
A partner who's never been to therapy and might benefit from expert support
The challenges of discussing kinky desires, consensual non-monogamy, or alternative relationship structures
Communication cycles that lead to disconnection rather than understanding
You're ready to invest significantly because you recognize that transformational change requires more than scattered weekly sessions.
Investment in Transformation
This work is highly curated to your understanding of what you most authentically desire. I'm careful not to tell you how you should be—that would be reductive and disrespectful. Your humanity and relationship story is far too complex and rich for a one-size-fits-all approach.
Limited to select couples and families per quarter who are genuinely primed for transformational change.