Not Your Typical Therapist—And That's the Point
Who I Am
I’m David Lieberman, MA, LMFT, a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who blends classic systemic models with a deeply human relational style to create space for couples and relationships to slow down, feel heard, and work through life’s most complex moments together.
I believe that meaningful connection is essential to human flourishing, yet our culture offers few spaces to honestly explore the complexities of relationships and family. My passion lies in facilitating unique experiences where couples can shed inherited scripts, connect with authenticity, and build relationships rooted in genuine desire rather than performance.
I believe that you and your relationship deserve to thrive because you are human - and that’s reason enough.
My Journey to Becoming a Therapist
Something shifted years ago while attending therapy with my now co-parent. As the therapist doled out advice, I wondered whether she was grasping my unique experience or aiming to fit me into a box. In that moment, I felt drawn to pursue this calling as a relationship and family therapist who pushes back against one-size-fits-all approaches.
Today, I find deep meaning in holding space with clients and their loved ones as we co-explore life’s challenges. I am constantly humbled by the awe and wonder I experience as I facilitate new, connecting conversations.
My Therapeutic Philosophy
I became a therapist because I've seen what happens when people struggle alone—and I've seen what becomes possible when they don't have to.
I don't take the conventional approach of labeling fellow humans with diagnoses or handing out books or potions to "fix" what visits them. I believe change happens when we're given space to authentically be ourselves, feel heard in all of our suffering, and gently disconnect the "problem" from ourselves.
Our work together involves co-authoring the stories you've been told, told others, and told yourself—with an ear toward gently expanding the "shoulds" that limit you. This process aims to amplify the dreams and virtues that resonate with your heart.
What It's Like to Work With Me
Working with me is likely different than working with most other therapists. I treat each session like our first and last, striving to amplify your autonomy in choosing when and how much counseling to receive. While I am an expert therapist with the tools necessary to support your full range of emotions and experiences, my position is to co-explore with you. I encourage you to lean on your lived experiences and unique cultural wisdom to untangle the struggles that visit you.
I respectfully ask questions that deepen your stories, co-develop metaphors to root you in your experiences, and listen intently to your humanity as you lean into new understandings and possibilities.
Outside of Therapy
When I'm not holding space with clients, you might find me playing pickleball, on a bike ride, watching my kiddos play, or having tea with a loved one. I also enjoy music, art, and feeling the warm Boulder area sun beam down on my face as I watch life's mystery gently unfurl before me.
My Commitment to You
This work is highly curated to what you most authentically desire. I avoid creating dependency by focusing on experiential transformation that becomes part of who you are as a relationship or family, not just what you do.
I work with the full complexity of who you are — not by reducing it to identity, but by expanding what’s possible between you.
My goal is to help you have the relationship with yourself and others that you actually desire.
My Approach
Beyond First-Order Fixes to Second-Order Transformation
My work is grounded in the belief that lasting change comes not from managing symptoms, but from transforming the very rules that govern your relationship. Through experiential activities and what narrative therapy calls "thicker stories," we explore the emotional landscapes that shape your connection.
We won’t just talk about feelings. We don’t only focus on behavior. We’ll look at the system and build a new structure where strength and connection work together.
It’s not about fixing one person. It’s about changing what’s possible. I help both of you transform the system that keeps you stuck in roles that aren’t working for you.
This isn’t about learning communication tricks — it’s about creating a deeper emotional system where both partners can show up without fear. It’s about creating a relationship that functions in a deeper, more tender way.
This isn’t about defining who you are. It’s about freeing how you connect. I work at the intersection of identity, embodiment, and relationship — because that’s where real change lives.
Our work won’t follow a template or achieve predetermined outcomes. Instead, you’ll have a committed witness to your relationship to help you work towards solutions on your terms.
Transformational change will emerge on your timeline. But it's YOUR change, discovered through thoughtful, human co-exploration.
Complimentary 30-Minute Consultation
Before beginning typical or intensive work, we'll explore whether my approach aligns with your goals and discuss which format best serves your relationship.