Couples Therapy Intensives: Where Change Happens in Days, Not Years
One couple. One three-day weekend. The whole of my attention. For couples who already understand their patterns — and know that understanding alone isn't changing them.
Two conversations come first, both at no charge — a 30-minute consult and a full 90-minute session that's the real work, not a pitch. If weekly therapy turns out to be the better door for you, I'll say so.
But knowing the pattern hasn't changed it. Most therapy asks you to transform your relationship in 50-minute increments — while living the rest of the week inside the very system that needs to change.
When you're really stuck, weekly sessions can feel like gunning the engine in a snowbank. Fifty minutes of spinning, then back next week to spin again.
And the point of movement isn't insight for its own sake. It's less suffering, sooner — a relationship that runs on something new, not the old pattern managed slightly better.
A real session first. No charge, no catch.
Most places offer a free consult — a quick call where someone sizes you up. I do that part too. But then I do something almost nobody does, and I don't charge you for it.
Why? Because I want to be sure we're a good fit for this different sort of therapy. This isn't about doing the same thing you've already tried, but better. It's our chance to sit down for a 90-minute first meeting and begin gently uncovering what's going on for y'all and your relationship, or your family. It's an opportunity for us to join as we consider embarking on an intensive journey, one that will likely transform you and the people you love.
Nothing has to be decided in that room. If an intensive isn't the right fit, I'll say so, and help you find what is. If it is, we'll choose your weekend together before you go. These 90 minutes aren't a sample of the work — they are part of it, which is why there's no charge for them. We start co-exploring what's actually under the hood, and you begin to hear your relationship talked about as something other than the problem you walked in with, and to feel, even a little, what it's like to stand somewhere new together.
Held from the first hour to the last
This isn't about leaving a session feeling a little better, then going home to the same system. It's about doing something different — and learning by doing has a shape. You didn't learn to ride a bike in ten-minute weekly installments. Someone held the seat. You wobbled, pedaled, found balance. Then the hand let go — and the balance stayed yours. A beginning, a middle, and an end.
The first meeting
No two couples run the same way, so I don't arrive with a worksheet. I listen for how you actually move together, what goes unsaid and what each of you is quietly protecting, and help you hear it in each other.
Three consecutive days, one couple
Three days of doing the work, not talking about it. We practice a new way of being together, slowly and with a hand on the seat, until it stops feeling like an idea and starts feeling like yours.
Consolidation
A follow-up a few weeks on, once ordinary life has resumed. We steady what shifted and make it livable on a regular Tuesday, so the balance stays yours long after the weekend ends.
These weekends are few by design. Each one is built around a single couple — a clear calendar, a rested therapist, nothing else competing for the days.
And though I say couples throughout, the same held weekend holds a whole family just as well — sometimes better. It's some of my favorite work, and I get fewer chances at it than I'd like. So if it's more than the two of you who are stuck, tell me on our call.
Don't take my word for it
Readiness isn't a verdict on your relationship — it's information about timing. So I made a quiet place to feel that out, away from any pitch — six honest things to sit with, together. Nothing is scored, no email is asked for, and your answers never leave the page.
It won't tell you what to do. It just helps the two of you notice where you actually are right now — and naming that, honestly, is often the first real step.
The path to a weekend
The path answers two questions in order. First, are we the right fit? Then, are you ready to invest your time, money, and energy in doing something different? You'll taste the actual work before you're asked to decide.
A 30-minute consult
A video call — both of you, if you can swing it. We talk about what's happening, what you've already tried, and whether an intensive is the right tool for it. We'll also talk plainly about the investment, early — because money is part of readiness, not an awkward footnote.
Possible weekends
If it feels like a fit on both sides, I'll send you the dates currently open. Most couples take Friday through Sunday, but the three days are yours to shape — if Tuesday through Thursday fits your life better, we can build it that way. These are real dates on a real calendar, so they can shift until one is held — which is exactly why the next two steps exist.
A 90-minute first meeting
In person, in Louisville. This is a real session — the work itself, not a sample at the door. We begin mapping the invisible rules your relationship runs on, and you learn from the inside what this way of working feels like. A commitment this size should be made with the taste of the actual work already in your mouth.
You choose your weekend
At the end of that meeting, I'll ask one plain question — do you want this? If yes, we open the calendar together, you choose your dates, and your deposit — the full $11,000 — holds them as yours. If not, or not yet, the door stays open, and the mapping we did is yours to keep.
Why a deposit, and why that day?
There's a practical reason. I hold only a handful of these weekends at a time, and a held date has to be truly held — for you, and for the couple who would have taken it.
And a deeper one. The deposit is the first move of the work itself. Two people investing their time, money, and energy in the same direction at the same moment — for many couples, the first thing they've done in lockstep in years. The intensive begins before the weekend does.
- A 30-minute consult
- A 90-minute first meeting — a real session, in person
- Your three-day weekend — about 4–5 hours a day, one couple, my whole calendar
- A consolidation session a few weeks later
The consult and first meeting come before your deposit — at no charge, not as a sample at the door, but so you can join the work before you commit to it. When you say yes, you're saying yes to something you've already tasted — a different way of feeding this relationship, not another empty granola bar.
This is therapy with a beginning, a middle, and an end — not an open-ended subscription to feeling slightly better. Each intensive is bespoke — shaped around one couple, never run from a template — and I only hold as many as I can hold well. Private pay; a superbill is available on request.
It's a significant investment. So is staying stuck — it's just billed in a slower currency.
If any of this rings true, the next step is small.
Thirty minutes to find out whether we're the right fit for the change you're after. We'll stand at the water's edge together and see whether this is the right crossing.