Poly and CNM Therapy in Boulder:

Affirming therapy for relationships navigating non-monogamy or polyamory.

If you’re exploring opening your relationship, CNM, or polyamory and want a therapist who can hold complexity without judgment or pathology — you’re in the right place.

I offer poly-affirming therapy in Boulder for couples, individuals, and polycules navigating relational possibilities.

You Don't Need Fixing

You already know what you want.

What's harder is finding someone you don't have to explain yourself to. Someone who won't treat your relationship structure as the problem. Someone who can hold all of it — the longing, the fear, the joy, the grief — without flinching.

Maybe you're navigating: How to open a conversation about opening up. Different desires, different timelines. Jealousy that doesn't have a name yet. Compersion that surprised you. Agreements that need renegotiating. A rupture you're not sure how to repair. Questions about identity, love, sex, partnership — all of it shifting at once. Perhaps you and your partner(s) have a misunderstanding of language around openness and possibility.

These aren't signs something is wrong. They're signs you're paying attention.

Non-monogamy doesn't create problems. Silence does. Fear does. The inherited scripts about how love is "supposed" to work — those create problems.

You don't need fixing. You need to be met. Fully. Without flinching.

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A Different Approach to Non-Monogamy Therapy

My work is grounded in Narrative Therapy, systems thinking, and emotionally focused approaches, not prescriptive models of how relationships should look.

This is not about:

  • Convincing you to open (or close) your relationship

  • Pushing you toward polyamory or monogamy

  • Handing you a rulebook or identity label

Instead, we focus on:

  • Clarifying desire before acting on it

  • Creating language that reflects your lived experience

  • Exploring how love and sex function differently — and together

  • Supporting sovereignty, consent, and relational integrity

  • Understanding how the whole system is affected, not just one partner

The goal isn’t to move you along a spectrum. It’s to help you understand yourselves and each other more clearly.

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Is this for you?

This work is often a good fit if you:

  • Identify as polyamorous, non-monogamous, or relationally curious

  • Are opening a relationship and want support doing it consciously

  • Want a poly-affirming therapist in Boulder who understands nuance

  • Need a space where kink, ENM, or alternative structures don’t require explanation

  • Value honesty over reassurance and clarity over quick answers

If you’re looking for permission or a predefined path, this likely isn’t the right space.

If you’re looking for thoughtful, grounded support while navigating real complexity, we should talk.

David Lieberman, MA, LMFT

I offer a variety of weekly and intensive style therapy sessions for couples:

  • My work with couples is grounded in Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and family systems approaches.

    Rather than focusing only on behaviors or communication skills, we look at the relational system you’re part of — the rules, roles, and protective patterns that shape how you relate.

    This isn’t about fixing one person. It’s about creating conditions where both partners can feel seen, heard, and more connected to themselves and each other.

    Together, we work to:

    • Understand recurring relational patterns

    • Explore emotional and attachment dynamics

    • Create space for honest, safer conversations

    • Support changes that feel authentic and sustainable

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  • Where change happens in days, not years. Transform your relationship through a 30-day couples therapy intensive designed for real, lasting change, not surface fixes or false promises. This work is for couples and families who already understand their patterns… and know that understanding alone isn’t changing them.

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  • Rebuild trust, repair connection, and create a new relational structure that actually works, even after betrayal. This is intensive couples therapy for relationships impacted by infidelity, secrecy, emotional betrayal, or profound disconnection offered in weekly or 30-day formats for couples who need focused, expert support now.

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  • Thoughtful, kink-affirming therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships navigating desire, power, intimacy, and connection, without shame or explanation required. If you’re looking for a therapist in Boulder who can meet you where you are, without pathologizing your sexuality or asking you to educate them, you’re in the right place.

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  • If you’re exploring opening your relationship, CNM, polyamory, and want a therapist who can hold complexity without judgment or pathology — you’re in the right place. I offer poly-affirming therapy in Boulder for couples, individuals, and polycules navigating relational possibilities.

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Session Format & Practical Details

  • Location: Boulder, Colorado (virtual options available)

  • Format: Individual and relationship sessions

  • Payment: Private pay

  • Insurance: Superbills available for out-of-network reimbursement

We’ll start with a free, fit-focused consultation to see whether this work aligns with what you’re navigating.