Kink-Affirming Therapy in Boulder:
Sex-Positive, Non-Judgmental Relationship Therapy
Thoughtful, kink-affirming therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships navigating desire, power, intimacy, and connection, without shame or explanation required.
If you’re looking for a therapist in Boulder who can meet you where you are, without pathologizing your sexuality or asking you to educate them, you’re in the right place.
A Space Where You Don’t Have to Explain Yourself
Many people interested in kink, BDSM, or non-traditional intimacy hesitate to seek therapy because they worry they’ll be misunderstood, judged, or subtly steered toward “normal.”
Kink-affirming therapy at People Not Problems starts from a different premise:
Neither of you is a problem.
Desire, power dynamics, and play can be rich, meaningful parts of your life. Here, we can explore how they're actually showing up — what feels right, what's complicated, what you're curious about — both for yourself and your partner(s).
My role is not to define who you should be — it’s to help you explore who you actually desire to be.
What Brings People to Kink-Affirming Therapy
People seek this work in Boulder when they’re navigating things like:
Talking about kink or BDSM within a long-term relationship
Mismatched desire, curiosity, or boundaries
Integrating kink with emotional intimacy and secure attachment
Navigating shame, secrecy, or fear around desire
Exploring power dynamics without harming connection
Feeling unseen or misunderstood in past therapy
I think of relational work as having three clients — each of you, and the relationship between you. What each one needs can shift, sometimes moment to moment. I'm here for all of it.
How This Work Is Different
This isn’t about learning techniques or being told what’s “healthy.”
My work is grounded in:
Narrative therapy — separating people from problems
Systemic thinking — understanding how patterns form and persist
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) — authentically finding secure attachment
Satir Family therapy — finding peace within as well as peace between
A non-pathologizing, sex-positive stance
We focus on creating safety and clarity for real conversations to emerge.
Is this for you?
This work may be a good fit if you:
Want kink-affirming therapy without judgment or an agenda
Are tired of explaining or defending your desires
Care about consent, honesty, and emotional responsibility
Want a therapist who can hold complexity with tenderness
This work may not be a fit if you’re looking for:
Someone to tell you what you should want
Tips, tricks, or quick fixes
Performance coaching or sexual instruction
Moral judgment — positive or negative
If you’re unsure, that’s okay. The consultation is a space to explore fit together.
I offer a variety of weekly and intensive style therapy sessions for couples:
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My work with couples is grounded in Narrative Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and family systems approaches.
Rather than focusing only on behaviors or communication skills, we look at the relational system you’re part of — the rules, roles, and protective patterns that shape how you relate.
This isn’t about fixing one person. It’s about creating conditions where both partners can feel seen, heard, and more connected to themselves and each other.
Together, we work to:
Understand recurring relational patterns
Explore emotional and attachment dynamics
Create space for honest, safer conversations
Support changes that feel authentic and sustainable
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Where change happens in days, not years. Transform your relationship through a 30-day couples therapy intensive designed for real, lasting change, not surface fixes or false promises. This work is for couples and families who already understand their patterns… and know that understanding alone isn’t changing them.
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Rebuild trust, repair connection, and create a new relational structure that actually works, even after betrayal. This is intensive couples therapy for relationships impacted by infidelity, secrecy, emotional betrayal, or profound disconnection offered in weekly or 30-day formats for couples who need focused, expert support now.
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Thoughtful, kink-affirming therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships navigating desire, power, intimacy, and connection, without shame or explanation required. If you’re looking for a therapist in Boulder who can meet you where you are, without pathologizing your sexuality or asking you to educate them, you’re in the right place.
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If you’re exploring opening your relationship, CNM, polyamory, and want a therapist who can hold complexity without judgment or pathology — you’re in the right place. I offer poly-affirming therapy in Boulder for couples, individuals, and polycules navigating relational possibilities.
Location: Boulder, Colorado (virtual options available)
Format: Weekly or Intensive formats available
Payment: Private pay
Insurance: Superbills available for possible reimbursement
We’ll start with a free, fit-focused consultation to see whether this work aligns with what you’re navigating.