Kink-Affirming Therapy in Boulder:
Sex-Positive, Non-Judgmental Relationship Therapy
Thoughtful, kink-affirming therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships navigating desire, power, intimacy, and connection, without shame or explanation required.
If you’re looking for a therapist in Boulder who can meet you where you are, without pathologizing your sexuality or asking you to educate them, you’re in the right place.
A Space Where You Don’t Have to Explain Yourself
Many people interested in kink, BDSM, or non-traditional intimacy hesitate to seek therapy because they worry they’ll be misunderstood, judged, or subtly steered toward “normal.”
Kink-affirming therapy starts from a different premise:
You are not the problem.
Desire, power dynamics, and play can be rich, meaningful parts of your life. Here, we can explore how they're actually showing up — what feels right, what's complicated, what you're curious about — both for yourself and your partner(s).
My role is not to define who you should be — it’s to help you explore who you actually desire to be.
What Brings People to Kink-Affirming Therapy
People seek this work in Boulder when they’re navigating things like:
Talking about kink or BDSM within a long-term relationship
Mismatched desire, curiosity, or boundaries
Integrating kink with emotional intimacy and secure attachment
Navigating shame, secrecy, or fear around desire
Exploring power dynamics without harming connection
Feeling unseen or misunderstood in past therapy
I think of relational work as having three clients — each of you, and the relationship between you. What each one needs can shift, sometimes moment to moment. I'm here for all of it.
How This Work Is Different
This isn’t about learning techniques or being told what’s “healthy.”
My work is grounded in:
Narrative therapy — separating people from problems
Systemic thinking — understanding how patterns form and persist
Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) — authentically finding secure attachment
Satir Family therapy — finding peace within as well as peace between
A non-pathologizing, sex-positive stance
We focus on creating safety and clarity for real conversations to emerge.
Is this for you?
This work may be a good fit if you:
Want kink-affirming therapy without judgment or an agenda
Are tired of explaining or defending your desires
Care about consent, honesty, and emotional responsibility
Want a therapist who can hold complexity with tenderness
This work may not be a fit if you’re looking for:
Someone to tell you what to want
Tips, tricks, or quick fixes
Performance coaching or sexual instruction
Moral judgment — positive or negative
If you’re unsure, that’s okay. The consultation is a space to explore fit together.
Location: Boulder, Colorado (virtual options available)
Format: Weekly or Intensive formats available
Payment: Private pay
Insurance: Superbills available for possible reimbursement
We’ll start with a free, fit-focused consultation to see whether this work aligns with what you’re navigating.