Where Identity and Connection Evolve Together
When you’re expanding your identity, desire, or relationship structure, you shouldn’t have to choose between your truth and your partnership. You can evolve together without collapsing under old patterns, fear or misunderstanding.
Get support from a Poly-Friendly Couples Therapist in Boulder, CO.
David Lieberman, LMFT, is a clinician experienced in consensual non-monogamy, open relationships and evolving relational structures.
You might be feeling deceived or emotionally betrayed. You might be confused and wondering what this means for your relationship. You might be ashamed for wanting something “taboo.” You’re feeling stuck. You don’t have months to spend on slow, weekly sessions. You need fast, focused, expert support that helps both partners understand why your current system isn’t working and how to rebuild something stronger and more sustainable that is better suited to the relationship you desire.
This is not traditional couples counseling. This is a relational rebuild designed for couples dealing with affairs, emotional betrayal, secrecy, disconnection, or patterns that keep breaking the relationship.
Why Couples Choose an Intensive
Some couples reach a point where traditional therapy can’t hold the complexity of what you’re navigating. David offers kink-aware couples counseling without judgement or pathologizing. He can help when:
One partner wants to explore kink or non-monogamy and the other feels unsure or overwhelmed
You’re opening the relationship (or considering it) and don’t know how to build structure and safety
A shift in identity, desire, or sexual expression is creating relational tension
You want to explore polyamory or ENM without replicating old relational patterns
You’re trying to repair after a boundary violation within a non-monogamous agreement
You need clarity. Are we evolving together—or moving apart?
Major relational change requires a container that matches its intensity.
David’s intensives offer the space, pace, and systemic framework needed for deep, transformational movement instead of months of circling the same conversations. You’ll experience a space where power dynamics, desire, and erotic identity are understood, never “fixed” or minimized. You will be able to move forward with clarity instead of pressure.
David’s Intensives Offer:
18 hours of concentrated couples work in a single weekend
Or a structured 30-day immersion — built collaboratively around your lives, needs, and desired outcomes
A private, clinician-guided space to explore desire, boundaries, identity, leadership, followership, and relational truth
Experiential work that rewires the relational system—not just communication habits
A tailored approach for kink, poly, ENM, and open-relationship dynamics
Flexible scheduling (one weekend or spaced across two to three weekends)
A clear path forward when you’re unsure what “repair,” “openness,” or “alignment” should look like
Rebuild clarity. Rebuild trust. Rebuild the relationship you desire.
A Different Approach to Kink, Poly, ENM & Open Relationship Struggles
Most couples counseling focuses on communicating “better,” talking more, or processing every emotion in the room. But when you’re exploring alternative relationship structures, the real challenge isn’t communication, it’s the system you’re trying to build together.
David works at the level of the system, not the symptoms.
Rather than asking one partner to “open up more” or the other to “slow down,” you’ll learn to create a relational structure that can actually hold desire, power, boundaries, autonomy, and connection—all at once.
During our sessions, you will:
Integrate identity, desire, and relationship so your expansion doesn’t become a threat
Work experientially, not just verbally—because transformation happens in doing, not only talking
Build partnership from mutual evolution rather than one partner adapting to the other
Create a dynamic where neither partner is the emotional manager nor the emotional avoider
Build structures that support autonomy and grounded connection, even during conflict or expansion
Establish safety, leadership, followership, and shared responsibility that works for alternative structures
Learn relational tools that function during conflict, in negotiation, and in the complexity of multi-partner agreements
This intensive helps you build a relational system that honors who you are, how you love, and the future you’re creating together.
What this Intensive is NOT:
Not gender-defining
Not identity “exploration work”
Not a quick fix
Not talk therapy
Not prescriptive or template-based
Not about forcing one partner to accept the other’s desires
We’ll work together to:
Uncover relational language that reflects your truth—not a template
Build structures that make openness, kink, and expanded desire stable and sustainable
Create safety without shutting down desire
Transform your relational system so you’re not “managing each other,” but actually belonging to each other
Move beyond theory into embodied relational change
after an intensive, you’ll walk away with:
A realistic path toward repair, reconnection, or resolution
Tools to rebuild emotional presence without losing strength
A functioning relational system where both partners can lead, follow, and evolve
A renewed sense of partnership — not resentment, avoidance, or imbalance
A way forward that feels grounded, honest, and possible
You don’t need to have it all figured out. You just need a place where the truth of who you are—and the truth of your relationship—can finally be held with clarity and intelligence.
Before beginning any intensive work, let’s discuss whether my approach aligns with your goals and discuss which format best serves your relationship. Let’s start the conversation today and explore a new path forward.