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If the cost of counseling is preventing you from participating in couples therapy, I encourage you to think about our time together as an investment in your and your family’s future. The time you spend in therapy is finite, but the perspectives and insights you gain through therapy will last you long after our work together is complete. Our relationships are like trees: the more nourished and nurtured they are, the more they will continue to bear fruit.

There are two steps to vulnerability: connecting with our own authentic thoughts, feelings, and experiences, and then sharing those across to a partner in a heartfelt, non-blaming way. The work we do together includes both steps and I prefer this to be done with a partner rather than individually.

I strive to pace conversations between partners in a way that is comfortable but also connecting, working towards congruence of honesty and authenticity that will likely bring you closer. Though it can feel paradoxical at times, having difficult, vulnerable, and heartfelt conversations builds a sense of loving trust that sustains relationships into the future.

Absolutely. Connecting to and co-exploring your desires in a safer space, like therapy, will build your emotional connection, creating more vulnerability with your partner(s), which will, in turn, create a more soulful, sensual, and intimate connection with less fear.

Gosh, I wish I did—and if I did, of course, I would share it with you on the first day of counseling. However, the shortcoming of most books and pop psychology is that they take a one-size-fits-all approach. Your humanity is unique, as is your partner and relationship—with unique strengths and challenges. I am confident that you will unlock the key to your relationship’s struggles by doing the deep work of tapping into your inner wisdom and making new discoveries about yourself and your partner(s).