I understand that cost can be a barrier, but I encourage you to think of therapy as an investment in your future. The time you spend in therapy may be finite, but the insights and growth you gain will last long after our work together. Just like a tree needs nurturing to grow, your relationship needs care to thrive. The investment you make now will continue to bear fruit for years to come, both for you and your family.

I understand that some concerns can feel too vulnerable to share, especially if they touch on things that are deeply personal or different from what your partner may expect. However, true vulnerability involves two steps: first, understanding your own feelings and experiences, and then being able to share them with your partner in an open, non-judgmental way. Therapy can guide both of you through these steps, creating a space where difficult conversations can happen with compassion and understanding. While individual work can be important, working with your partner on these topics allows you to grow together, fostering connection and trust while navigating any challenges you may face, especially in complex dynamics like kink, polyamory, or non-monogamy.

I strive to pace conversations between partners in a way that is comfortable but also connecting, working towards congruence of honesty and authenticity that will likely bring you closer. Though it can feel paradoxical at times, having difficult, vulnerable, and heartfelt conversations builds a sense of loving trust that sustains relationships into the future.

Yes, counseling can absolutely help. Discrepancies in sexual intimacy—whether it’s about frequency, desire, or preferences—can create tension and distance in a relationship. Therapy provides a safe space to explore these differences, where both partners can express their needs without fear of judgment. By deepening emotional connection and increasing vulnerability, you’ll be able to communicate more openly about your desires and work together to create a more authentic, sensual, and fulfilling relationship. Over time, this can help reduce any shame or fear, leading to a more balanced and mutually satisfying connection.

I wish I could offer a simple book or quick fix, but the truth is, those approaches often take a one-size-fits-all mentality, which rarely works when it comes to the unique dynamics of your relationship. Relationships are deeply personal and complex—they require a more individualized approach.

In my work, we focus on language and experience to uncover deeper understanding and lasting change. This allows you to connect with your inner wisdom, helping you both make meaningful discoveries about yourselves and your relationship. While insight plays a role, we avoid relying on behavioral techniques or psychoeducation, which can be surface-level solutions. Instead, we create space for real transformation, where the work is personal, intentional, and rooted in emotional growth.

The deep work we do together will help you unlock the true potential for healing and connection in your relationship—not through quick fixes, but through a lasting transformation that reflects who you are as individuals and as a couple.

I understand that scheduling can be a challenge, especially when balancing work, family, and life’s other commitments. That’s why I offer weekend appointments on Saturday and Sunday, as well as evening times during the week. I also offer a hybrid option, where you can choose to meet in-person or online, depending on your needs and preferences. While I believe that in-person sessions are the most effective for couples therapy, I recognize that flexibility can be crucial, especially if you’re outside of Boulder or have scheduling conflicts. My goal is to make therapy as accessible and convenient as possible, so you can get the support you need when you need it.